If you know any military spouse, you probably already know how resilient, independent and strong they can be. The frequent moves, deployments, children, and all the Murphy’s laws that get thrown at them, there’s no way they can’t be those things.
However, just because they aren’t ones to ask for help, doesn’t mean that they don’t need or won’t appreciate it. Especially those going through a deployment who could definitely use that extra step of kindness.
Lost on how to serve our spouses? Let give you some tips:
- Shovel the Snow. As soon as it’s light out, you’ll see them out clearing the driveway and cars just in case there’s an emergency. Surprise them and have it done first, or go over with your shovel or snow blower and lend helping hand!
- Cut the Grass. Same concept as snow shoveling. Finding time to cut the grass between kids, and especially with a baby can pretty hard. I remember cutting grass during nap time on my husbands second deployment, and stopping ever minute or 2 to check the monitor. Give them a little peace of mind!
- Take their Trash Can to the Curb. If you can easily get to it, and realize the night before or early morning of trash day, and theirs isn’t out, drag it out for them! That little mundane task can feel huge to a spouse who has their Soldier gone on training or deployment.
- Take Them A Meal or Dessert! Just like you and me, they are busy making their house run and getting the kids to all their activities. Sometimes a dinner fail happens and it becomes the local fast food drive thru. Think about blessing them with a meal or even a dessert they can have before bed time!
- Offer to Babysit. Especially when the Sailor is out Sea, finding some alone time can be hard to come by. Every mom knows the joy of being able to grocery shop with our kids too. Offer to take the kids for an hour or 2 so she can get her hair done, pick up some groceries, or just take a nap!
Of course there are tons of other ways you can always help a military spouse. Remember, they are often the last ones to reach out for help, so step in and become a little light to them!
Written by: Megan Harless, Lead Doula of Stars and Stripes Doulas of Hampton Roads