We read about it in books, but it’s something that we can’t understand until we become part of the club – Motherhood. We read how hard parenting can be, the sleepless nights, the long days, the toddler meltdowns in the middle of Target, or the embarrassment when they throw food in a restaurant.
But nothing truly prepares us for this new journey that we step into.
And stepping into this journey shouldn’t be done alone. I will be the first to tell you that you need a village in this adventure. Yes, a village. Not a village to raise your child, but a village to support you!
These are the villagers you need:
- That one that you call at 1am when you don’t know how to get your baby back to sleep and you just want to sleep again!
- That one who will bring you a venti, double shot mocha from Starbucks on their way to the gym because you were up all night with that baby.
- That one who will drag you to the gym because they understand the importance of burning stress calories.
- That one who arrives with a casserole, and cold medicine when the sick bug strikes all the kids.
- That one who shows up with a bottle of wine and chocolate because they know you’ve had a rough week.
- That one who will get your kids off the bus because the middle child stuck a marble up his nose and the Dr Visit is taking for-ev-er!
- That friend who knows how to change a tire, work a weed eater, and fix a clogged toilet because let’s face it, learning the quadratic equation in school was a much better use of time.
- That PTO mom who will bake an extra batch of brownies for you for the bake sale because they know it’s not your strong suit even though you signed up for it.
- That one will come over, let you cry, vent, and whine to them only so they can pick you up, and drag you to the salon for a little girl time and a new pedicure.
It’s not always about having a village to help your children, sometimes it’s about having a village to help you! No matter how big or small your village may be, no matter if you call them your circle, tribe, or squad – you need one.
Life is hard sweet friend. Don’t go through it alone. Go through it with your village, and you’ll be so glad that you did!
Written by: Megan Harless, Stars and Stripes Doulas of Hampton Roads