It is no surprise that after nine (or more) months of pregnancy and excitement your family and friends are anxiously waiting an opportunity to see your sweet baby and cuddle him or her.
They certainly mean well and think the best thing they can do to help your family during this time is to hold your baby…and sometimes that is helpful but many times it is not exactly the help you need.
Some ways to get the help you need during this time are:
- Create a list and hang it on your fridge.. When friends or family members stop by and ask what they can do to help it provides practical help and reduces that awkward feeling many of us get when asking others to do chores for us. You can kindly say, “thank you for your offer, I have a list on the fridge that you’re welcome to check out and see if any of the tasks are something you feel up to helping us with, we really appreciate your support as we settle into our new routine” and most people are glad to provide the help when given practical suggestions.
- Post on social media asking that friends/family schedule visits with you rather than just popping in. Explain that you and your family are resting and bonding and scheduling is helpful.
- Ask visitors to bring dinner or ask your doula to create a MealTrain for you. Our agency has the premium meal train plan and can not only arrange meals but also visitor hours, tasks around the house, yard work, etc. We are glad to do this and you can easily share the link with family and friends.
- Share your postpartum plan with close family so that they can support you during this transition.
- Feel free to say no to postpartum visitors….and don’t feel bad about it!
Preserving this special time for you and your immediate family is important. The postpartum period is often one of exhaustion, adjustment, and emotions. It is okay to want to spend that time getting to know your sweet baby without guests. We are here to help you navigate that special time by providing household support–meal prep, laundry, sibling care, pet care, light housekeeping, and personal support (emotional and physical) during your recovery. Let us tuck you in for a nice nap while we care for your home and family.
Written by: Melissa Nauss, Owner | Lead Doula of Stars and Stripes Doulas of New Orleans