Why Don’t Surrogacy Stories Look Like They Do In Hollywood?
Surrogacy. It’s that taboo word you only hear about in Hollywood. It is that elusive unicorn you have heard about but really… what is it and what kind of women actually do surrogacy? Is it the women that you see in the movies pursuing this as a means for income? They get paid a lot of money right?
There is so much controversy and so many fallacies surrounding the very act of surrogacy but it isn’t what you think. I am the type of girl that does surrogacy. Me. A wife to a Marine. A mother of 3 children. A business owner. The mom that drives a minivan and is the social media coordinator for the PTO at the local elementary school. My income as a business owner and my husband’s income serving our country provides for our family but it sure is nice to go on an extra vacation, pay off a car early or splurge on something like a new piece of furniture or a purse that I could never justify buying for myself otherwise.
How is it that an act that is so beautiful and selfless suddenly becomes about the drama filled journeys and of course about money? The media is to blame for this to put it simply. The majority of surrogacies go unnoticed outside of the surrogate’s close friends and families. We aren’t doing it for the glory…. We do it because we want to see someone become a family or grow their family.
The moment a child is born and a parent meets their baby for the first time is a moment like no other. This doesn’t change with surrogacy. Except when you ARE the surrogate, you get to witness that love in a way that words cannot convey. It is a pretty amazing moment. Hollywood just cannot capture that feeling in a movie so they put out movies like Baby Mama and When the Bough Breaks because drama sells!
Do you have any questions about surrogacy that we can answer? Any misconceptions we can debunk?
Photo Credit: Julie Gayler Photography
Author: Melanie Binversie