Those Who Serve
Stars and Stripes Doulas is the only full service doula partnership in the country focusing on supporting those who honorably serve our country. We are proud to support military families, law enforcement officers, firefighters, EMT’s, public servants, doctors, social workers, and many other professionals in the Washington DC and Northern Virginia community through our doula-client relationship and by employing doulas and working with partners aligned with the same backgrounds. With extensive personal and professional experience in the military and public service culture, Melissa and Melanie are committed to meeting your needs while respectfully collaborating with your birth team.
"What good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is usually best after all."
What Our Clients Are Saying
Melanie came highly recommended through a friend and I hired her to coach my husband and I through the birth of our child. I was also wanted a breastfeeding expert and found that in Melanie. My goals were to have a drug free birth and to breastfeed for two months and with Melanie's support I was able to accomplish both. She was honest, thorough, and checked on us frequently prenatally and postpartum. If it had not been for her advice to stay at the hospital when I was encouraged to go home for a bit, I would have likely had an unassisted birth at home due to the fast labor and birth. I am so grateful for her expertise!
A., Fort Belvoir, VA
As a surrogate, I was looking for a special level of support that no ordinary doula could provide. Melanie, a former surrogate herself, was the perfect doula for me. My goal was to have a successful VBAC but unfortunately due to cord complications a cesarean was scheduled and Melanie eased my stress with her support. Melanie's attentiveness and experience stands out most to me.
T., Woodbridge, VA
I hired Melissa and Melanie because I was looking for support for an unmedicated birth with minimal interventions and I had also experienced a neonatal loss in the family and needed additional emotional support. We hired military doulas because base access was a huge advantage and having women that understood the unique challenges we faced with no family nearby and a looming deployment soon after our child's birth was ideal. Although my labor went incredibly quickly, Melissa was incredibly supportive in all the right ways. During the postpartum visits, Melissa helped me with pumping and Melanie watched my baby so that I could take a swim class with my toddler. The implicit trust I have in these women is invaluable. I found the most valuable assets Melissa & Melanie provided were emotional support, camaraderie, and trustworthiness. They really went above and beyond and I felt like they were family. That is priceless during the most important moments in life.
A., Falls Church, VA
"I seriously would not know how I would've functioned without Melanie and Melissa!!! First of all, they are the sweetest people ever. Welcoming them into my home was like opening the door to long time friends. I had my second child a month ago and my husband is in a wheelchair. We decided it was best for us all to have some postpartum assistance. They are there to help with anything you need to assure that you focus on yourself, first and foremost, and the bonding with baby...or be able to continue to bond with my toddler. They offer professional newborn and postpartum care advice. Even when they are not in my home they still are available to my questions and concerns. I don't know how I'm going to part ways when the time comes....they've become what feels like family!"
M., Fort Belvoir, VA
"Melanie and Melissa were my #dreamteam. Melanie supported me during my 40+ hour labor (all the way through the days of "early labor" and then "active labor" at VHC). As my birth progressed and it became clear that my natural birth goals were no longer viable, Melanie was my emotional rock as I prepared for an urgent C-section. Post-op, Melanie helped my son to latch right away and worked with me on positioning to ensure that my breastfeeding journey was comfortable and enjoyable. After my hospital stay, I was wildly unprepared for the reality of caring for a newborn while recovering from major surgery. Melissa supported me as my post-partum doula in my home during this time. She helped me to care for my son and kept the household running smoothly so I could catch a few precious hours of shut-eye, shower, or have a few moments alone with my spouse. She also worked with me on everything from baby wearing to bottle feeding and coping with post-partum anxiety. All told, I don't know how I would have made it through the emotional ups and downs of labor and the "4th trimester" without my doulas!"
J., Fairfax County, VA
"I was considered high risk and had a lot of anxiety induced by the concerns from being high risk. In addition, my partner has a hard time being around medical facilities therefore we decided to hire a doula to help us in these areas. Melissa was so welcoming and nonjudgmental from the second I heard back from her. I knew I wanted her to be a part of this special experience. She made me feel at ease during the most important moment of my life. For me, I could not imagine looking back and not having Melissa there the day of and days leading up to my son's birth. She really made it not only ok to "feel" what I was feeling but she also brought so much joy to the occasion! My goal for my birth was be at peace. Melissa helped me feel at peace with whatever I needed, wanted, or whatever situation was arising. She always brought peace to the moment. Melissa was able to talk to and even comfort not only me but my partner and Mother. I found her to be the glue that held us all together, and with a smile. Melissa gave every single thing she could to make sure my experience what I needed it to be. The thing that stands out most about my experience was that Melissa listened to me."
H., Loudoun Co, Va
“When we found out we were expecting our first child we looked to find a doula for guidance and support. We chose Melissa because she was very kind, sincere, and honest. Melissa provided the assurance and comfort we were seeking for our birth experience and she helped make the birth as smooth as possible without any surprises. We appreciated how informative and readily available Melissa was during the pregnancy and birth and the support she provided.”
A. (Father), Washington DC